12:19… I’ve been doing a lot of thinking these days, as you could probably tell, and one thing popped out at me yesterday… What do I want?
It’s an open-ended question, yes, but I’ve been working on an answer for that question and I have been craving the chance to write something down.
For me, I’ve never really wanted a whole lot, for the most part, I was listening to ideas and I mainly chased the things that really made sense to my analytical/logical brain. My brain has always been really good at knowing what I need versus what I want. Defining that distinction across the board with me has always been important. If someone presented an idea to me, I’d take some time, the size of the idea would govern how much time, and figure out whether or not it is something that I want or something that I need. There are also different levels of need and want, the degrees of desire, if you will.
Needs
Need to survive
Need to help others survive
Need to support the cause I’ve attached myself to
Need to do it because I said I would
I have to have that
Wants
Want that to entertain myself
Want to read that
Want to see that
Really want that to be mine
Really want to support that
Agreeable Notions
That sounds like a good idea
I’ll give that a try
If you don’t want it, I’ll take it
Disagreeable Notions
No thanks
That’s not a good idea
Not Wanting
I’ll stay away from that
What were you thinking?
Not Needing
My happiness depends on me not being involved with that
My happiness depends on me not having that
That list is a fluid idea and I wouldn’t say it’s complete yet. I’m sure some more will pop up and show themselves soon.
I guess where this idea stems from is my seemingly lack of desire to have a girlfriend or wife, those ideas have been more “Agreeable Notions” than anything else. I’ve never really needed the physical pleasures that would be forthcoming from said arrangement. I certainly enjoyed them, but arguably, I never did a whole lot for those activities to make them awesome, likely because the need or want was never there.
There are likely some good arguments to be made about this and I’ll hear them. There also could be another post here soon, talking about liking, loving and the flip side to those thoughts.
I think one of the great things with this brain of mine is associating value to the needs and wants in life. If I need something, I’ll take some time to figure out how I can achieve that goal and work pretty hard to get there. I haven’t had too many needs in my life… food, shelter, health care and social interactions come to mind immediately. I’ve always been someone that stands by their word, if I say that I am going to do something, I’ll do whatever I need to so it happens.
Not having a whole lot of needs is certainly keeping the stress levels down in my life. There are an extraordinary amount of people who are seemingly always stressed out. I’ve never needed or wanted that stress, so I’ve done a good job of staying away from it. The bottom half of the list above is just as important as the top half.
Of course, each level on this list has the associated politeness you can use when you’re approached with said situation. You can definitely tell how someone values an idea, when approached with it. Of course, there are a lot of people out there who may overreact to a situation, but are they really overreacting or are they negotiable?
A lot of good things have happened from some Agreeable Notions and there have been some bad results from others. The real trick is to adapt as you go along.
13:20… I think that’s the bulk of it. I will likely show it around and get some input on it.
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